Even Closer

 

"There are trivial truths and the great truths. The opposite of a trivial truth is plainly false. The opposite of a great truth is also true." - Niels Bohr


 

Whatever wisdom I stumble upon seem mostly to come in paradox: in nonsense and double talk and confusing contradictions.

 

Like this one.

 

I think maybe, that to have really great relationships, I have to be independent and dependent, all at the same time.

 

I have to know myself, to acknowledge my unique value, to practice self discipline, to be accountable to myself. I must resolve that no matter what happens today, no matter who I lose today - tomorrow I will wake up in the morning, make a cup of coffee, and keep being the person that I am, the person that I want to be.

 

I also must submit to dependence, to interdependence, to vulnerability. I must tie myself to other people. I have to weave myself all into other people, to make plans that only work if they are there with me.

 

I lean toward dependence, I'm comfortable wrapping my fate up with someone else's. Today, though, I'm finding my voice, my mission, my independence.

 

And bizarrely, I feel even closer the the people I love.